There are certain steps in life I have come to realize. One of these concepts is that you can teach, but it is up to us to learn. When one speaks it is often translated by the listener. If i’m angry about a certain subject, I may take what I hear about that subject and twist it into my own views. It may come across hateful. Even if it’s a subject about love. It can sound hurtful and narcissistic.
On the other hand when I speak from the calm and peaceful side of my heart. I find it makes life flow easier. I feel I’m heard better. I try so hard not to speak from fear or anger anymore. But other may take my words and use them as a weapon to speak from their viewpoint.